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So you want to write your own vows?

With a few tips, you can be on your way!

Are you considering writing your own wedding vows? While it may seem intimidating, a handful of straightforward pointers can enable you to create a heartfelt message that your partner will cherish.

Your vows are the centrepiece of your ceremony and include promises two people make to each other. You are declaring your lifelong commitment to each other in front of your witnesses and guests. They are also one of three legal requirements in Ontario to be married. You are letting your partner know what is on offer. For example “ I Josh, take you, Stella , to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, to love and to cherish, from this day forward.”

The tone and style of your ceremony will determine whether vows can be romantic and emotional or humorous. Adding humour will be memorable for your partner and guests, as long as there is some ‘meat’ in your vows too.

Although your partner may know you better than anyone else, it's important to keep your vows on the shorter side. While it can be tempting to elaborate on all the reasons why you love them, it's best to save the lengthy vows for private moments, a love letter or as a speech at your reception. Aim for a personalized and heartfelt delivery that doesn't exceed 2-3 minutes, striking a balance between expressing your love and not going overboard.

It is unnecessary for your vows to mirror those of your partner or have identical length, especially if one of you is reserved and the other loquacious. However, before the significant day, you will need to send your vows via email to your officiant to ensure that they comply with legal requirements.

At times, it can be simpler to define vows by what they are not. Vows do not entail elaborating for pages on how you met, the obstacles you have surmounted, your aspirations for the future, or how adopting a pet brought you closer. Although these details may be touched upon, your promises to one another are the focal point.

Your clergy/officiant will give you many ceremonies to choose from and they will include vows. You can get some ideas by reading them and may choose to make them your own rather than writing from scratch.

Certain couples may still encounter difficulties when writing their vows. Creating a list of key ideas in bullet point format can aid in developing your thoughts. Numerous officiants can utilize your bullet points to craft vows on your behalf. There are vow-writing companies you can hire as well online.

When the moment arrives to recite your vows, there are two options available. You may opt to recite them after your officiant, or if you are feeling especially anxious, read them from paper or miniature books specially designed for this purpose, which can also serve as cherished mementos of your special day.

While you are here have a look around Kawartha Weddings website. You can see the types of ceremonies offered, advice and lots of testimonials to read.

I would love to marry you!


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